New Year, New Calendar: The 4 resolutions I won’t be making this year.

With the New Year upon us, of course there is a lot of talk about resolutions. Well I decided not to make any resolutions, then I promptly changed my mind. I wanted to take a few days to think about it and see if there was anything that I would really put my foot down and do. With that, I came up with a list of things that I am NOT going to do. Not because I don’t want to make a resolution but because I have made them in the past and continuously failed at them.

No shade to me, but full shade, I really wanted to look up what I meant by saying that “x” was going to be my resolution. This is when www.dictionary.com became effective for this story. So apparently the history of the word started in a sense of things being broken into smaller pieces and evolved into the definition we know now as “the act of resolving or determining upon an action, course of action, method, procedure, etc.” So here’s 4 resolutions I’m not gonna do:

  1. Watch less T.V:   You can’t make me! I’m grown! Actually, I find this one very difficult to say I will do less of. How will I know who will throw a drink on who? Who’s going to be the next drag superstar? The Doctor is now a woman?! House Hunters, Forensic Files, Law and Order: SVU! All too important to just not binge watch every night, however, I CAN make a conscious effort to watch more meaningful content. A friend suggested a specific TED Talks that deals body language and how people perceive you. I think this would be particularly interesting and I intend on watching. There is a wealth of knowledge out there that should be tapped into and a healthy balance between my “Turn-up Tuesday” (thanks Dana & Mike) AND my would be “Wisdom Wednesday”. Yea, I’m down for that.
  2. Learn a new language: So have you tried learning Russian? I did for about 2 minutes of the language CD, then turned promptly around and told the library “Thanks, but no thanks.” I spent all of my high school years and most of my college “career” learning how to speak Spanish. I still have very little writing skills in Spanish, and I am ashamed. I don’t need to learn another language at this point, I need to improve on the languages I have already started to learn. I love the Latin culture, and lived in Puerto Rico for 6 months. It was such a wonderful experience and I learned a lot. Getting out there and immersing myself in the language could really help me. Estoy lista amigos, WEPA!!!
  3. Eat healthier: Let’s be clear, I DO NOT EAT IN MODERATION OR HEALTHY! Give me a box of Hot Tamales and I will show you a girl who can polish it off before you can even ask for one. What’s for dinner? QT corn dogs, 2 for $2.22 and finish it off with a Big Q Coke and white cherry Icee. You want to make spaghetti? It better have meat sauce! Yes, IKEA, I would like a 6 pack of your famous cinnamon rolls, hold the napkins. I SAID NO CHEESE on my White Castle (or Krystals) slider! Sorry, I get angry when I’m hungry. Eating terribly is right up my lane and seeing that stop makes me sad. However, one thing I have found out is that St. Louis has some great spots for food! What I can do this year is find ways to eat locally and in moderation. Everything in moderation, right? Not the whole box of Hot Tamales in one sitting or the whole pack of cinnamon rolls (i.e sharing). I do have my favorite restaurants that hit the spot like Grace Meat + Three, Cafe Natasha’s, and The Vine. I can do this, right? (As I sit here meat sweating)
  4. Reinvent myself: New Year, new me? Naw, I’m good. There was way to much that went into making me who I am now, and I’m not sure if I have even given myself an opportunity to really show that off. It hasn’t been until lately that I have begun to find things out that I like (with some exceptions). I guess at this point, the reinvention has already happened. I am now in a phase of accepting myself for all that I have to offer, and showing that to the ones I love and care about. When I was younger, I always got teased for not being like everyone else. Many would say that I didn’t talk, dress, act, or even do thing that some like me would do. Things that a black person “should” do. I wasn’t “black enough” for many folks, and that bothered me. I know now that I am who I am, and that people like that rarely stayed around to really get to know me. My experience is different than anyone else, and everyone’s experience is different than mine. I want to take the time to get to know yours as you will get to know me. You don’t have to like it, and that’s OK. We aren’t made to like everything, but I can appreciate our differences.

With that being said, there are a few resolutions I WILL be making.

  1. Become financial stable(ish): No more of this paycheck to paycheck nonsense. I have too many thing I want to do, and need to do that depend on me making financial sound decisions. Accountability will be key along with some self control. That doesn’t mean I will stop buying yarn, I hope.
  2. Get my butt off the couch: Plain and simple, my knees hurt! Since I’ve been a “Domestic Goddess” (thanks Aundria) for the past 3 months, I have put on them pounds and not doing much about it. I did start walking with some amazing women for a group called GirlTrek. It gets me out of the house and interacting with the world around me. I plan on doing yoga regularly at some point.
  3. Don’t take experiences for granted: I have recently been spending a lot of time lamenting all of the decisions that I have made over the past couple of years. It’s unhealthy and takes up energy better spent on other things. I have found myself becoming more distant, and I don’t like that about myself. I want to be more present in my daily activities and relationships. Like I have mentioned before, when Prince died it was really a huge eye opener. People are not infinite, moments aren’t either. We say we will do something later, experience something another time, but there may not be another opportunity. Enjoy what you have, get out there, see it, do it, live it.

Let’s hold each other accountable for our resolutions. Be specific, be adventurous, include others, or spend some time alone. Do what you need to in order to get to you. I got your back. Unless your doing something crazy, then I may have to talk about you!

 

For those looking to eat at the restaurants mentioned above, I have them hyperlinked! Enjoy!

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Comments 13

  1. Megan
    January 8, 2018 Reply

    haha love your defiant attitude! You do you, girl!

    • Thirtyplus
      January 8, 2018 Reply

      Thank you!

  2. christine
    January 8, 2018 Reply

    hahaha i love this! so realistic and honest. i’m also trying best to become more financially stable this year. budgets are the saddest… but also necessary.

    • Thirtyplus
      January 8, 2018 Reply

      Budgets suck!!!!! I’m going to really put an effort into trying the envelope method by Dave Ramsey.

  3. Lilliana Rose
    January 9, 2018 Reply

    Love your approach to setting your goals this year 🙂

    • Thirtyplus
      January 11, 2018 Reply

      Thank you!

  4. Octavia
    January 9, 2018 Reply

    Hi India. Just saw your blog. I remember you said you wanted to do it. Good for you for following thru. I enjoyed reading it

    • Thirtyplus
      January 11, 2018 Reply

      Thank you! I’m trying to make good on some of the things I promised myself!

  5. Swan
    January 11, 2018 Reply

    I love that you are different and unique. I’ve always been different and I finally accepted this and love myself for it. We can be “different” together.

  6. Michelle Robinson
    January 11, 2018 Reply

    Love how some of your resolutions were not about what you were going to stop doing and about rather how you could take a more proactive and positive approach to reaching your goals.

  7. KD
    January 12, 2018 Reply

    These are some really good goals. I have also been cutting down on exposing myself to “meaningless content” aka watching too much tv!

  8. Amber
    January 16, 2018 Reply

    I really liked the get your butt off the couch part lol. Yoga is great! I hope you crush your goals!

    • Thirtyplus
      January 16, 2018 Reply

      Thank you! I have worn that couch down to the bone! Here’s to hitting those goals!

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